Friday, September 25, 2009

Family: Essential to a “Thriving Human Community”

Coming from a strong family background, I have always believed on the importance of the family being the most important unit in our society. It has been said that destroy the family, and you destroy the entire community. As Ariel and Will Durant assert, “The family is the nucleus of civilization.” Thus everything that we value in our lives today hinges on our family.happy_family

You cannot build a new family by tearing down another. Probably it worked for some, but generally, it breeds complications untold, and more often pains and miseries for the concerned. Sorry, I digressed a bit here.

Moving on; on the one hand, some are lucky, or more appropriately, blessed to have a family in the natural way who have no need for the services of an egg donor agency to have the most coveted gift of life –that of another life. Children are gifts from God, albeit they carry huge responsibility for the parents.

On the other hand, some, who are not blessed that way. However, they do not need to lose hope nonetheless, because they can always tap a surrogacy agency for their need or ardent desire for a child of their own. Alternatively, if you are a kindhearted individual, you might also consider joining the roster of healthy egg donors to help those who are not capable of conceiving the natural way.

Among the questions that probably linger in your minds right now, may well be the same as mine: Does a surrogate parent has a responsibility over the child? Does God (or most probably, your church) approve this ‘unnatural’ way of conception?

Well, I am leaving the answers with you as I wrestle with mine. These deep theological, religious or moral issues depended entirely on where you are coming from, your culture, and your values.

A family, however how it was formed (like adoptions, out of wedlock, lesbians and gays parenting, etc.), should stick together through good times and bad times. I hope we continue to embrace what Ben Silliman observes about the American families, and I believed applies to all families around the globe:
...families have always shown remarkable resiliency, or flexible adjustment to natural, economic, and social challenges. Their strengths resemble the elasticity of a spider web, a gull's skillful flow with the wind, the regenerating power of perennial grasses, the cooperation of an ant colony, and the persistence of a stream carving canyon rocks. These are not the strengths of fixed monuments but living organisms. This resilience is not measured by wealth, muscle or efficiency but by creativity, unity, and hope. Cultivating these family strengths is critical to a thriving human community.